Ok, I get it. I am neither rich or famous. People really don't care if I look fabulous or make "the scene". People don't take notice if I am out partying until Sunday morning. Wait...I know a person who cares...my child!
When you become a parent, you do essentially lose your freedom. No, you are not a slave to a child and you should still retain a social life, but you have a responsibility.
To me it seems that some women think of children as accessories. The pregnant belly looks cute, and those new pink strollers are adorable. Let's face it, a little baby packs a big punch in your life. Gone are the days of jumping in the car and going, even if it is just going to the store. Gone are the late nights out and the opportunity to spend Sunday on the couch recovering. Yes, you lose a lot of small freedoms, but you gain so much.
Even in such as small town as I live in, we have our "Britneys." You hear they are pregnant, see all the pictures and they say all the right things, yet on any given evening they are drunk dancing at the local bar. Am I judging? Yes...yes I am.
I had a friend once (who shall of course remain anonymous) who would pawn her child off on any adult who was willing (maybe even those who weren't) so she could make the "scene. The resentment her daughter feels towards her mother is so thick you could cut it with a knife. And this is a anonymous small time family. What about these celebrity spawns who will be able to look back one day of pictures of their mommies, knowing that while they were at home with nannies watching "Dora" their Mommy was topless dancing with strippers and passing out in the middle of dance floors? I feel so sorry for these children-maybe their mommies should adopt just a little bit of worry-wartness.
Now, I know that being a parent isn't easy. There are days that I can't wait for my husband to get home just so I can "escape" to the bath for a few minutes. My husband and I go out occasionally, and I really enjoy it when I do. But I genuinely love spending time with my child. Maybe I am one of the lucky few that feel this way? I don't think so...I think that if the "Britney's" of the world would try to spend a few extra evenings at home, they would realize that making your child laugh and tucking them into bed feels so much better than a martini buzz. They might realize that their kids are actually fun and extremely entertaining.
Children grow so fast...you will always be able to find beer and dance floors in this world, but you have only a short while to read bedtime stories and tuck in your babies before they can do it on their own.
When you become a parent, you do essentially lose your freedom. No, you are not a slave to a child and you should still retain a social life, but you have a responsibility.
To me it seems that some women think of children as accessories. The pregnant belly looks cute, and those new pink strollers are adorable. Let's face it, a little baby packs a big punch in your life. Gone are the days of jumping in the car and going, even if it is just going to the store. Gone are the late nights out and the opportunity to spend Sunday on the couch recovering. Yes, you lose a lot of small freedoms, but you gain so much.
Even in such as small town as I live in, we have our "Britneys." You hear they are pregnant, see all the pictures and they say all the right things, yet on any given evening they are drunk dancing at the local bar. Am I judging? Yes...yes I am.
I had a friend once (who shall of course remain anonymous) who would pawn her child off on any adult who was willing (maybe even those who weren't) so she could make the "scene. The resentment her daughter feels towards her mother is so thick you could cut it with a knife. And this is a anonymous small time family. What about these celebrity spawns who will be able to look back one day of pictures of their mommies, knowing that while they were at home with nannies watching "Dora" their Mommy was topless dancing with strippers and passing out in the middle of dance floors? I feel so sorry for these children-maybe their mommies should adopt just a little bit of worry-wartness.
Now, I know that being a parent isn't easy. There are days that I can't wait for my husband to get home just so I can "escape" to the bath for a few minutes. My husband and I go out occasionally, and I really enjoy it when I do. But I genuinely love spending time with my child. Maybe I am one of the lucky few that feel this way? I don't think so...I think that if the "Britney's" of the world would try to spend a few extra evenings at home, they would realize that making your child laugh and tucking them into bed feels so much better than a martini buzz. They might realize that their kids are actually fun and extremely entertaining.
Children grow so fast...you will always be able to find beer and dance floors in this world, but you have only a short while to read bedtime stories and tuck in your babies before they can do it on their own.
Now, let's hope I don't break an ankle getting down from my soapbox...
Here a is a website that has great ideas for family fun...
http://www.amazingmoms.com/htm/familyfun.htm
Here a is a website that has great ideas for family fun...
http://www.amazingmoms.com/htm/familyfun.htm
1 comment:
I agree with you one hundred percent!! After I had my daughter, I just don't understand how women could leave their children with virtual strangers just so they can go out and get wasted!!!!
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